Even though I have a lovely husband who took good care of me, I talked to him but somehow I couldn’t derive find the level of comfort that I needed. He was there for me and tried his best to help me, but I guess that there are certain things that only mothers can feel. I called my paediatric nurse and she really helped; almost acting as a psycholgist for me as she gave me a lot of helpful advice.
Benedicte (Baby'n You) also helped by providing care for my baby and she was simply here for me when I needed someone to understand.
Other than my paediatric nurse, I found it really difficult to get help. I had to see the lactation consultant at Queen Mary Hospital, but even though she was "nice", she never actually really helped, and in fact made me feel even worse by asking me to travel from Lamma to the hospital every two days. I ended up bleeding like hell because I had to carry my baby alone, and she said that if things didn’t get any better they would take my baby away from me.
Through the geobaby group I later discovered that I could get help from other lactation consultants who come to your house, but with the little compassion I had from the local one at Queen Mary, I felt that I didn’t want to see anyone else who was local. I think that when you are facing challenges, having someone that share your own culture can be more helpful because they understand better how you think.
I went to Queen Mary to see the lactation consultant or doctors for my infection many times, but they never really helped. In the end, after four months of suffering, my Mom went to see my doctor in France and sent me the medication that I needed. I took it in spite of all the bad advice that I had been given; according the doctor here there was nothing wrong with me, and they said things like: "We don't give probiotics when people take antibiotics; if you have problems as a result of the antibiotics, you need to stop eating vegetables and yogurt." I’m not a doctor but I am also not stupid, and I lost all confidence in local doctors.